Who are you trying to please?
We go through life, and every day we try to please others. We long for the approval of our peers, and those in authority over us.
The alarm goes off. Jordan gets out of bed and heads off to school. He reunites with his friends and seeks the approval of his peers. The bell rings. He plops in his chair at the front of the class and seeks the approval of his teacher. School ends. He arrives home at the end of the day and seeks the approval of his parents. Break’s over. He heads off to work and seeks the approval of his employer.
Can you relate to Jordan in any way?
There are two reasons we do this. The first reason is that we want to feel loved. We do our best to perform in a way that makes people like us. The thing is, we don’t have to. We already know that God loves us. In fact, He sent His son to die for us because he loved us so much. We should be so filled with Christ’s love that it’s overflowing to those around us.
When you do something, ask yourself this question: are you doing it because you want people to love you, or are you doing it because you love them?
The other reason we seek approval from people is because that’s where we find our value too often. Where do we find our self-worth? Sometimes our self-esteem is entirely based on what others think of us. It almost sounds ridiculous, but we all fall into that category. We all tend to determine our value based on people’s perceptions of us. Again, this is wrong. Instead of placing our value in what other people think of us, why don’t we place our value what God thinks of us?
Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men.
We’re supposed to do everything to the best of our ability, but we’re supposed to have the right motivation. Instead of doing it to earn love, we should do it because God loves us. Instead of doing it to feel valuable, we should do it knowing we are valued in God’s eyes.
Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God? … If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ.