What You Say Matters

The way you choose to use your words is extremely important. Have you ever said something that upset someone or maybe came across the wrong way? Then looking back you realize you said something that might have been hurtful and you should’ve used better discernment with the words you chose to speak.

I’ll be the first to admit it, I’ve done that SO many times. The thing is, sometimes our words are simply a reflection of our thoughts. Often what comes from our mouth is really coming straight from our hearts.

Today, I want to look at the Bible. I want to show you what it says about our words. Specifically, I want to see what the Bible says about how we should be using our words.

Always be gracious with your words

Let your speech always be gracious, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how you ought to answer each person.

Colossians 4:6

Honestly, that verse is a little convicting. I know the answer when I ask myself if my words are always gracious, no.

No, sometimes my words are rude or selfish. But this serves as a really important reminder that I think can be practically applied to our everyday lives, we need to be gracious with all that we say.

Don’t let corrupting talk come out of your mouth

Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.

Ephesians 4:29

Similarly to the verse in Colossians, this verse in Ephesians says not to let any corrupting talk come out of your mouths, only that which builds others up.

Are your words corrupting? Or are you using your words to give grace and to build others up?

This verse isn’t telling you to not be truthful just to make others feel better about themselves, not at all. Rather, the point here is to speak the truth, yet do it in a way that will be beneficial to the other person. Sure, the truth might hurt, but you need to do it in a way that will ultimately help that person.

Don’t Speak Harshly

A soft answer turns away wrath,
but a harsh word stirs up anger

Proverbs 15:1

I think this verse really emphasizes the point I was trying to make from the previous verse. You can be truthful with the words that you use–it’s important to always be truthful–but at the same time, you also need to be gracious.

Don’t be harsh with others, always speak kind, gracious, and soft words. You might be frustrated with someone, maybe they hurt you or hurt someone you love, you might just want to scream in their face and reprimand them.

Obviously, you shouldn’t do that. That’s exactly what these verses are telling us not to do.

It’s vitally important to always be humble and graceful with the words that you use, even if it takes some self-control.


All of these verses had one key point in common. Use your words to build others up.
After reading these different passages, it’s clear what God expects of our words. We should never speak harshly or rudely. Rather, we should always use our tongues to be considerate and kind, to build others up.

I mentioned this earlier, people will make mistakes sometimes. They will hurt you and they might even hurt people you love, that doesn’t give you an excuse to treat them rudely or harshly.

We must be loving toward others, just as God first loved us.

Think about the words that you choose to use before you speak, think. Are your words going to come across as harsh or rude? Are you going to love others with the words you use? Our words are powerful, and I believe God calls us to use them wisely.



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5 thoughts on “What You Say Matters

  1. Thank you for this beautiful article.
    Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be acceptable in your sight, O Lord!

      1. Such truth, Zachary. I am so happy to see the progress you are making with your writing and You are a JOY to a Grandmother’s Heart.

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