There are people out there who want to have faith, but feel that they can’t. That they’re stuck. That this faith thing is too good to be true. That it’s something other people understand, but they just don’t.
If you’re that person, I want you to know that I care. I felt distant from God for awhile before I truly experienced Him.
So know this: You’re not alone—and there’s hope.
Lots of hope.
“Why doesn’t God feel near to me?” I asked myself years ago.
I wanted so desperately to hear from God. To be close to Him. To understand Him.
And I’m telling you, reading straight from the Bible gave me an answer, that can be your answer, too.
“Come near to God and he will come near to you.” — James 4:8
Come near. It was a promise, a beautiful promise that if I only drew close to God, He would draw close to me. I had to be the instigator, not God. Maybe that had to do with this thing called free will.
And so I prayed. And I read the Bible. And I read devotionals and Christian books. And I talked to my parents. And I prayed. And I read the Bible some more. And I began to actually try to live out this thing called faith, that I barely had a mustard seed of.
Maybe God wasn’t talking to me at first because I wasn’t showing Him I was interested. Or maybe He was trying to talk to me all along, but I wasn’t listening.
Whatever the case, I was beginning to understand this Being called God in a way I never had before. He is our Father who loves us and redeems us through His Son’s blood. He makes a way for us to be in a relationship with Him, because He loves us that much. God is holy, and without Jesus we’d have no hope to draw near to Him at all.
So how do you have faith in something you can’t see? It’s a terrifying question for humans whose main sense is sight. But the answer is simple: You search for Him fervently with the senses of your heart, mind, soul, and all of your being.
And when you search for Him, He will reveal Himself to you, in His timing and in His ways.
I’ve been learning that God is a tangible God, who meets you right where you’re at. He knows about whatever is going on in your life, and He cares. He really truly cares.
There’s no harm in searching to find out if something is true. And God loves searchers and wanderers of His mysterious ways. He loves to answer our hardest questions and ease our uneasy minds.
“Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you.” —Matthew 7:7
It’s been a wonder at the doors He’s opened for me, even when I don’t deserve it. I’ve asked God for friendships, and He has given them to me (even when I haven’t asked for them). I’ve asked God for opportunities to share my faith, and He’s granted them to me. I’ve asked God for wisdom, and He has shown it to me. It hasn’t been easy making these reckless leaps of faith, but I’m so thankful for His faithfulness in leading me on His path of life.
I remember an English teacher praying in class one time, and she said something like: “Thank You that when we feel like we can’t trust in You, we can ask You to help us trust in You.”
That deeply spoke to me. Now whenever I have a hard time trusting in God, I’m reminded of that, and I just pray: “Please, help me to trust in You.”
When we’re honest with God, that’s the beginning of a meaningful relationship with Him.
And it’s the beginning of our growth. Part of being honest with Him is confessing. Confessing your sins to God can be hard, but I’ve found it to be truly freeing.
“If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.” — 1 John 1:9
Confessing that we were wrong and God was right sets us free, and believing Jesus has washed us clean of our sins gives us a certain closeness with God.
Yes, having faith in the Lord is not easy. It’s the last thing the devil wants you to do.
But just know, friend, that God cares about you—I cannot stress this enough.
Seek help from a trustworthy adult (maybe a parent or pastor) and seek God through the Bible and prayer. If you have scientific doubts, I really recommend watching the True U videos from Focus on the Family.
You are not alone. Every Christian has doubts, and that’s not something to be afraid of. What you should be afraid of is letting those doubts rip apart your faith.
Please don’t do nothing. Don’t be comfortable living an uncertain life. You need to be sure about this thing called faith. After all, if Jesus really did die on the cross to pay the ultimate price for your sins, your salvation is at stake. Your life is on the line. There’s no way for you to have faith if you don’t search and find the God you are having faith in. And as you begin this Search, take comfort in the fact that God is your biggest cheerleader.
Do you struggle with having faith? Or have you simply had doubts that left you a bit confused? Feel welcome to share in the comments. I’d be honored to pray for you!