I heard someone say this once on the radio: “Christians get so wrapped up in the parts of the Bible that say homosexuality is a sin, but what they don’t realize is that the word ‘love’ is used over 300 times in the Bible!”
That seems pretty logical, doesn’t it? I mean, how can love be a sin? How can God promote love, and yet condemn homosexuality?
Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love.
1 John 4:8
Christians are infamous for casting judgement on people of different supposed sexual orientations. Secularists continuously bombard us with claims that we’re being hateful when we stand up for what we believe. Many can’t wrap their minds around how we can serve a God of love and yet define love of the same sex as sinful.
However, 300 uses of the word “love” in the Bible doesn’t disqualify what God says about homosexuality.
God doesn’t contradict himself, so His command for Christians to love one another and his condemnation of homosexuality have to be consistent with each other. I believe the confusion comes when culture distorts our view of love. True love is a reflection of God’s character. It’s perfect according to His design. False love is little more than attraction, a feeling that is tossed about in the wind.
Selfishness is a form of love. Dictionary.com defines it as “devoted to or caring only for oneself; concerned primarily with one’s own interests.” Obviously, selfishness is not a good thing. When you read the definition, you don’t get caught up in the words “devoted to” and “caring” and forget the part that says “oneself”. Clearly, selfishness is against God’s design. Sure, it’s love, but it’s not love in the way God intended it. What’s more, selfishness is the exact opposite of biblical love. The kind of love that Jesus showed is selfless – sacrificial.
Similarly, homosexuality shouldn’t be considered pure simply because it includes love. Though it may be love by the world’s standards, it doesn’t line up with the love of the Bible. God made humans to share a romantic love with people of the opposite gender, and he calls homosexual relations “dishonorable passions”(Romans 1:2) and an “abomination”(Leviticus 20:13). Just because homosexuality involves attraction doesn’t make it consistent with God’s design for sexual love.
Homosexuality is undeniably wrong in God’s eyes, but how should we respond as Christians? Should we hatefully tell them they’re sinners and are going to hell? Should we tolerate their alternate viewpoint and show them love? We should do neither. As Christians, it is imperative that we show the love of Christ in everything we do. Hatefully telling them they’re sinners will likely push them away from the cross instead of drawing them near it. On the other hand, it’s impossible to show others love without letting them know they’re sinning. We can’t share half of the gospel. Our homosexual friends need to know they’re sick before they can see the need for salvation.
I believe the best way to confront a gay or lesbian person is same way as any other person. Let them know they have sinned and fallen short of God’s standard of perfection. Then share with them the good news of Jesus, that by His wounds we are healed. We can stand on judgement day flawless because Jesus nailed our flaws to a piece of wood.
Is homosexuality wrong? Yes.
Is God still a God of love? Yes.
Can sin be conquered? Because of Jesus, absolutely.